I joined Facebook Dating thinking, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
Turns out, you can learn a lot about yourself when your crush doesn’t text back for 3 days but still watches all your stories.
Dating here is weirdly entertaining. One minute you’re vibing with someone over your favorite type of plantain, the next you’re ghosted by someone who said, “I’m different.” And maybe they were—just in the disappearing act kind of way.
But still… I’m not mad.
Because Facebook Dating has taught me three things:
- Most people aren’t emotionally unavailable. They’re just not available for you. And that’s okay. It’s not a rejection. It’s redirection. The real ones won’t be confusing.
- You attract what you reflect. If you’re unclear, guarded, or just there for attention—you’ll meet people doing the same. But the moment you start showing up with honesty, the quality of connection changes.
- Effort is sexy. Not expensive gifts. Not perfect selfies. Effort. Like remembering a random story you told them or sending a “you got this” message before your big day. That stuff? Rare. Priceless. Still undefeated.
Look, I’m not here to act like I’ve figured it all out. I’ve unmatched. I’ve been unmatched. I’ve liked someone too fast, and pretended I didn’t care. I’ve been the late responder and the overthinker. Real talk.
But if you’re reading this and you’re also out here, looking for something genuine, something safe, something that doesn’t need to be explained—then maybe we’re not as crazy for trying as we think we are.
Because even in a world of “hey” messages and recycled pick-up lines, some of us still believe love can be both simple and real.
And maybe… it could start right here.